If you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change. -Wayne Dyer
Ponder over that quote for a second…
First of all, if you haven’t read or listened to Wayne Dyer, rest in peace, you really need to do it like YESTERDAY! His teachings have changed my thinking completely, which, therefore has made me able to conquer even the most difficult situations. https://www.drwaynedyer.com
People get really caught up in thinking that everything and everyone around them are the problem. If I lived in a bigger house, then I’d be happy. When I’m free from my credit card bills, then I’ll be happy. If I was skinnier, then I’d be happy. If my co-worker acted differently, then I’d be happy…
We all have things that we wish we could change, but the truth is…they WON’T unless you change how you are looking at the situation.
More importantly, don’t wish for someone to change. It’s not helpful to keep thinking the same thoughts If something bugs you about another person. For instance, if your husband takes longer than you to get ready and is slow as a turtle to leave the house, then you have to switch your mindset because he isn’t going to change. You gotta make the switch in your brain or develop a new strategy of getting him out of the house on time if you want to live in peace. I am still struggling with this one! Definitely a work in progress.
However, if you live in constant animosity and constant struggle with another person, then, the only way to feel differently about how you feel is to change yourself. What is it that YOU can do to UNDERSTAND how they feel. How can you help THEM so you can help YOURSELF? This is not an easy task, but if you don’t switch your mindset then you are the one that is going to be miserable.
How do you do this? Well, what I do is try to get in the other person’s shoes. How may the feel in the situation? Why are they feeling this way? What makes them tick?
Then I think, well how can I do the opposite of what I’m doing, because what I’m doin’ ain’t workin’, to help me gain control of the situation.
For instance, if I’m dealing with a person who is constantly picking out little things about me that get on their nerves, then I switch it to a game of, “Wonder what they are going to pick out about me next?” Sounds a little crazy, but it works! If you can laugh at the situation that’s causing you distress then you will be much more likely to accept the circumstances and much more likely to be at peace.
I hope this helps a little. I know it’s hard, but sometimes we have to do things that aren’t fun to come out of the storm and into the calm. You can do this. Live happy!